We’re Just Girls

Written by Man On Crutches on March 31st, 2009



24 Comments so far ↓

  1. Tyler says:

    there’s a reason why it’s called a walking cast.
    I’ve been on crutches since december, and I don’t bitch about standing on the bus/train. Grow some balls and man up about it.

  2. BobDobbs says:

    You should let them know if any disabled people, for sure. Not exactly sure why you are so sensitive to them not getting up for disabled people…are you disabled yourself somehow that you haven’t explained?

  3. haha says:

    well done :) keep it up .. this is really bad , and they need to be up on this , its a nice idea. well done.

  4. Justsomeone says:

    Honestly just ask the people to kindly stand up and make room for you. I don’t think every person acknowledges your disability but just ignores you. Most people are caught up in their own world and often don’t pay attention. Women may be afraid to scan around the subway/bus because they might make eye contact with someone who will harass them. Basically, I could see myself not realizing I was sitting in a reserved disability seat but would have no problem getting up if someone asked. Btw are you really disabled or just injured? lol

  5. Shine says:

    While I think the site, for the most part, is great… you cant Look at a person and know if they are disabled. I have 2 debilitating, painful diseases but if you saw me in a seat youd probably take my picture too. Outwardly I usually look ok. Maybe a bit tired or cranky. But the pain is constant and the exhaustion neverending.

    While I agree many of these people are probably healthy and exceptionally rude to not offer a person on crutches the disability seat, Please bear in mind that not all disabilities can be seen at first glance.

  6. DarkSteele says:

    Shine I think you just copied word for word what he wrote on the side of the website.

  7. Carol Dibney says:

    Please, I was born without a leg and I can only afford the cheapest-ass prosthetic because my insurance sucks and you don’t see me whining. You are a huge pussy.

  8. Emy says:

    But Carol, you just- …oh nevermind.

  9. Andrew says:

    It really is a slippery slope. It just takes one small push toward inconsiderateness to end up becoming a city of tacitly boorish New Yorkers. I personally always feel pressure to act more comfortable with myself and be a little more assertive in my daily commute than I would in any other public space. The cold demeanor and uninviting mien act like defense mechanisms, chasing away interaction. Originally this was intended to chase away just the negative interactions (namely: stressful encounters with very sensitive and ill-tempered New Yorkers; accidentally offending a person or having the person blithely say something offensive. Example of the latter: I always offer those who look like they need a rest but I can’t count how many times these very people say something about Asians being so well-mannered, as if their omitted insult to every other ethnicity was somehow acceptable in light of this awkward compliment.) This has inadvertently discouraged all interaction. I always smile when a person offers her seat to someone else, but at the same time I can’t fault people for being hesitant to say something lest they come away feeling worse off than before (oh, is there a feeling worse than hearing someone rejecting your offer?)

    Also, jeez, talk about a condescending and nebulously sexist title.

  10. subway_cowboy says:

    longtime nyorker here. all behavior is contextual, and the subway context is bizarre. most people completely abandon their normal manners. that is not an excuse for this rude behavior, just an observation.

  11. Shine says:

    No DarkSteele, I did not copy it, I simply said what I was thinking.

  12. David says:

    I’m sick of people with big fat asses taking up multiple seats as well as people, mostly guys, spreading their legs wide enough to prevent anyone from sitting in the seat next to them. These days you can only fit five people where seven used to. Maybe some of these commuters should give up the candy bars and walk!

  13. kl says:

    What’s w/ all the whining from all the comfy-in-their seats haters? I love this website! You rock!

  14. Tony says:

    yay,David! Well said! This website is great! Shame on the seat hogs!

  15. Jenni says:

    Bravo! It is stunning to me that people in this country are so incredibly rude. I have lived for several years in Russia, where people fight over who can stand up first to let an older person sit down. Here, people work hard to ignore all those who come on to a train or bus after them. It’s despicable.

  16. Suffering says:

    I’m glad you seem to have perfected your gimp radar. I, however, live with a disease that cripples me, yet I look like any other normal person on the train. Screw you, your crutches and your dumbass blog. You’re an idiot.

    National Fibromyalgia Awareness Day is May 12, 2009. I suggest you make a donation, participate in the walk, or make a public apology on this blog to all of us who suffer daily from this debilitating condition.

    If you’d like to learn more about rheumatoid arthritis, please visit withinourreach.info, wedmd or any other site of your choice.

    You can also visit mda.com to learn about muscular dystrophy. I’m sure viewing pictures of Jerry’s Kids, and how normal some of them look, might open your eyes.

    Educate yourself. You should be ashamed.

  17. Manuela says:

    Here in Paris it’s the same. People so rude and uncaring.

  18. Seriously? says:

    It seems bizarre to me that those truly disabled individuals are hating on this blog instead of empathizing with the plight. We know you exist, but even you must admit that the majority of these persons are either lazy or ignorant of where they are sitting. It’s like parking in a handicapped space when you aren’t handicapped– just plain rude. Nobody should have to ask you to move from the priority seating- just don’t sit there in the first place. If any of these persons find themselves on this website, and have a justified cause for sitting where they were, I’m sure they will email the website and ask to be removed.

    As to the “so what” -ers, the balancing act of standing on a metro is right difficult even on two good legs- imagine attempting this while trying to hold on to a crutch.
    Man on crutches, I salute you.

  19. EK says:

    I often offer my seat to the obviously elderly, injured, pregnant moms or moms with kids in tow, and I’m a woman. I don’t have to travel far and it’s no big deal, I’m in good health. Interestingly, most of the time, they don’t take the seat.

    I offer help often to the elderly on the street, and they often refuse, which makes me a little self-conscious that I’m being condescending.

    However, I have on occasion completely spaced out and not seen someone who could use a seat.

    Having been on the crutches side of things too, I relate — I’ve noticed that in regard to hailing cabs too. Younger twenty-somethings seem to be the worst offenders, completely oblivious to anyone but themselves and their clothes, at least in my area. I’ve had to hail a cab for a friend on crutches with a group of younger people laughing at her and stealing the cab.

  20. Thom says:

    BobDobbs, are you that fucking stupid. Read the URL.

    This shit is genious. People in Toronto need to wake the fuck up and get there heads outta there asses.

    New York the city that never sleeps… Toronto the city that never woke up.

  21. vajayjay says:

    You should talk to your doctor. It would appear there is a cast on your foot, when it is your vagina that is broken and soppy.

  22. A. Nakamora says:

    Who cares!

  23. GarykPatton says:

    Hi. I like the way you write. Will you post some more articles?

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