Squeeze In, If You Think You Can Fit

Written by Man On Crutches on March 2nd, 2009

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  1. deb with ms says:

    DONT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER!!

    while alot of the pictures posted are MOST LIKELY non handicapped persons, lets not forget those of us with INVISIBLE DISABILITIES.
    i have ms. i look fine. i dont use any assitance devices. but there are times where i have such overwhelming fatigue i can barely think. there are also times my muscles are so weak i can barely walk. BUT TO SEE ME SITTING SOMEWHERE I WOULD LOOK NORMAL.

    DONT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER AND ASSUME EVERYONE IS AN ASSHOLE.

    i personally would give up a seat to someone who obviously needs it more than me.
    but then again…. i dont use public transportation.

    why dont you just ask someone to move??

  2. balamuthia says:

    You know what? Yeah. Sometimes you have to squeeze into a seat on the bus or train. It happens.

  3. A NYer says:

    Why don’t you just say “Excuse me” and sit down, people will move. and you’re upset about the person who spreads their legs, do you also get upset and the person who’s overweight and takes up two seats?

  4. deb with ms says:

    I think perhaps I should take a break from commenting…anyone agree?

  5. Not disabled yet says:

    @deb with ms. Yeah, I think you might feel happier with another hobby. You totally have a valid point, but I think you have made it well by now. And isn’t it a little more stress for you each time you post?
    Wishing good health and happiness and a whole year of holy foolery to all visibly and invisibly disabled, including by anger, ignorance, etc.

  6. jane says:

    if you went to sit down they’d make room. i ride the subway everyday and people will shuffle.

  7. I think people who sit with their legs spread or otherwise take up more than one seat, are ipso facto disabled.

  8. ronaldette says:

    there is an empty seat right there in the middle, so why is this photo even here?

    p.s. I have a disability

  9. DC Born says:

    I too feel uncomfortable when asking people to move, and frequently find myself being the only person to get up and offer my seat to anyone who looks like she/he needs it more than I do. I think it is a generational thing considering many adolescents refuse to acknowledge their octogenarian counterparts holding on for life as the train rounds a corner at high speeds. But I remind myself, I am not a mind-reader and do not know anyone’s situation well enough to be a judge. I also come from a different town and thus a different set of rules when it comes to using public transportation. I am from Washington, DC where people stand to the side to let others off the train before shoving on. This is also a city where you cannot eat, drink – even water – on the precious train. If any pushing starts, the Metro police are quick to break it up so people just obey the rules. It’s better than being hassled. You will also rarely see anyone even sit down in the priority seats unless they are disabled or elderly. Even the most obnoxious teenagers will get up for people.

    New Yorkers play by their own invented set of rules. I have learned to respect the “rules”, sometimes follow them and almost always laugh at the audacity a majority of people in this city have in various situations.

    Y’all are just different up here…

  10. Emily says:

    Honestly, some people are really, really SLOW to move their bags, even when you ask.

    First they’ll act like they can’t hear you because of their IPod. Then they’ll look at you like you have three heads. Then they will move like molasses to meticulously inch their bag onto their lap, adjust their coat, change the song on their IPod…

    When this goes on longer than 30 seconds, I’ve seen people just sit on the other person’s coat or bag. Of course, the owner of said bag and/or coat has the nerve to get angry when this happens.

    Actually, the funniest instance I ever saw of this involved a man with several Sponge Bob Square Pants balloons on the D train…

  11. D to the L says:

    While I won’t say all people give up their seat, some of these pictures are really dumb. If some dude is sleeping or some chick has her face buried in a book – sorry, I don’t expect them to grow eyes on the top of their head to see you.

    If you said “excuse me” and they just sat there, that’s one thing – but to take a picture from 3 or 4 feet away when the person doesn’t see you – nope – sorry – you have no case.

    Speak up or STFU and deal with it.

  12. David says:

    despite what all the up tights have said here, I think the site is really funny. good work on this social experiment.

  13. kal says:

    I’m with Deb. I also am severely disabled, but you cannot tell by looking at me. I gave us on riding a bus because it was too difficult to do by myself, and people kept asking me to move, then demanding my medical history because they couldn’t see what was wrong with me.

    In your defense, most or all of these people may have been able-bodied. Maybe they just didn’t read the signs. I would have asked them to move. If you, being on crutches, had asked me to move, I would have if there was another seat available.

  14. nerddowell says:

    First off, quite often when those disabled seats are empty and a disabled person boards they choose NOT to sit there. Therefore aren’t they taking up a seat from riders who have already made the concious choice to forgo those seats?

  15. nerddowell says:

    In addition, nobody is supposed to ride 100% for free. Half fare sure. Understandable. I have yet to see a bus driver ever ask a wheelchair bound individual for their Metrocard. Why is that?

  16. Mike says:

    I have a few arguments against your logic and method of doing things. You could be posting photos of innocent people who are as equally disabled as you are while accusing them of being rude and insensitive. Not every disability is as visible as yours. In fact, yours is a temporarily disability while others non-visible disabilities may be permanent.
    You are legally entitled to a disability priority seat if you’re disabled, but you must ask for it. The law clearly indicates that IF a disable person asks for that seat, then the non-disable person must relinquish that sit. If you don’t ask for the seat, then the person sitting on it may presume you don’t want it all. Remember that the law does not say anything about a person giving up his/her seat if not asked. If you ask, and they don’t give you the seat, then you can contact the conductor and that person will be forced to give you the seat, and may even get a fine for disobeying a law.
    But how can you possibly expect someone who is sleeping to get up and give you a seat? They have no way of knowing you are disabled or that you want that seat. That’s why it is important to ask for the seat.
    It is cowardly act to take inconspicuous photos of people without their permission and then attack them online without them being able to defend themselves. If you have anything to say to anyone, you must gather some courage, man-up, and ask them for the seat then and there.
    How do you think a person with a non-visible disability will feel if he/she finds his/her picture posted on the internet and being falsely accused of being rude? If I’m one of those people, I would feel terribly hurt and embarrassed and I will suit you for defamation and harassment.

    Your idea is noble but it lacks fundamentals.

  17. bob says:

    shut up crybaby you’re on crutches not missing a leg get over yourself i’m tired of you fucking people thinking that the world owes you something cause you’re crippled maybe those people on the subway actually work for a living and needed to sit while you collect your fucking disability checks faggot get a life

  18. Jeff says:

    Really? You’re on crutches. For one, you could ask them to move, as people have already pointed out. Most people would move for a person who was visibly disabled. But couldn’t you also fit into a normal chair? It’s not like you’re in a wheelchair–you can hold your crutches as you sit down.

  19. NekoStar says:

    Quit bitchin.

    (Not disabled.) I sit in the priority seating on the buses that take me to work. If a handicapped person(s) asked politely, (most are jerks just cuz they have a disability, they can be an ass and we’ll still feel srry for them.) surely, I would move, no questions asked.

    I get it. You’re handicap. Feel for you, really. But don’t just assume everyone will get up and move. not everyone is that observant, or having a sunshiny day. Just ASK politely, and i’m sure they’d move, or make room. don’t dedicate a blog about it, craving MORE attention and sympathy.

    ~Paid for by ‘the people who have been waiting in line for hours at Walt Disney World, then you come rolling along, bitching about how everyone treats you differently guild.’

    Peace.

  20. James says:

    I cant believe some of these comments! I am from London England and let me tell you if someone boards a train with an obvious disability they will certainly be offered a seat even if it is not the dedicated disability seat.

    I spend 4 hours a day on trains traveling from one side of London to the other. WHY should you have to ask for a seat if it is clear you cant or should not be standing. Should we as evolving humans not care for other in need.

    What is wrong with society? come people grow up and evolve. offer your seat to someone in need.

  21. nathan says:

    bacon tastes great

  22. i got a disability but i look awesome says:

    Your reaction is typical from people who are temporarily disabled….
    it seems you just idiscovered people in big cities don’t care for each other ? that’s a fact.
    deal with it.
    but like it has been said before, don’t judge too quickly…
    you don’t know much from the look of people.
    look at me ! i look GOOD
    and i have a physical disability.
    my whole bod is a pain but nobody knows what i feel.
    Why not use your tongue instead of
    taking pictures ?
    that’d be more effective. People would make room instantly, believe me.
    you think you should not have to ask ? you ‘d be right if you live in the perfect world but i don’t know such place.
    from my own experience, when you need to seat, you do what it takes to get a seat.
    if the only thing that comes to your mind is taking pictures, you must not really need a seat.

    there is one terrible disability : the one that affect people who do not know how to use their brain. believe me it is very spread.
    at least you don’t feel much pain with it, and you can take pictures.

  23. The Person Who Wants To Beat Scott's Ass says:

    I dont think it’s that she should move. It’s that she doesn’t even care to put her GIGANTIC “I’m a selfish bitch” bag down so that someone CAN sit. He shouldn’t HAVE to ask her to do that! How selfish do you have to be to put your stupid ugly bag before a person on crutches?

  24. A says:

    Oh, please, you’re wearing a walking cast; you’re fine.

  25. livinginFrance says:

    Heard about your little problem on the news this morning, the French journalist even pronounced the name of the page right! Thanks for the laugh, just ask.

  26. François says:

    The same happens in Luxembourg City in the Grand Duchy of Luxembourg, one of the 27 Member States of the European Union. Young or less young people sitting comfortably stare straight in your face with their belongings spread on other seats while you are standing in the aisle with your shopping cart and tired looks of a visibly aged person.

  27. Malarie says:

    First off, I find all the comments on here hilarious. People are so uptight these days! It was a frakin’ social experiment. Humorous, yes.

    James I totally agree with you. There’s no consideration anymore. I’ve witnessed this especially living in DC; everyone has a major superiority complex around here.

  28. VeggieGirl says:

    WOW. What a bunch of haters on here – and bitter people! People are really pissed off at the Man On Crutches guy, especially people who are disabled (which is so odd, even if he is only “temporarily disabled” – but aren’t you all assuming that?). The especially bitter are the people who post on here that “don’t look disabled.” Did MOC say ANYTHING about assuming “everyone is an asshole”…Deb? I think the majority of pictures speak a thousand words…and those words are “not disabled.” Also, have you ever asked someone, even a polite tone, to move their stuff so you can sit there? Have you? I have – (been on crutches myself) and the person you ask acts like you’re really putting them out! Truly!

    Also, the guy in the blue scarf kind of does look like an asshole. He’s probably not – but he certainly looks like it, just sitting there enjoying his ride, reading in the disabled seat. I have a feeling that if you polled a random group of people and said, “Pick one – ‘asshole’ or ‘not asshole’ for sitting in the disabled seats when clearly he’s not disabled?” and the majority of people are going to say ‘asshole.’ . Don’t try to tell me that people who knowingly sit down in the disabled seats don’t notice other people – ever. So they just sit down, look down for the whole ride, and wouldn’t notice anyone around them? Why do you think that is? Hey! Hey, I know! Over here! Because they know they’re sitting in an area NOT FOR THEM reserved for people with DISABILITIES. Unless they really are disabled – but you can’t tell – in which case, Deb, apologies. I’m going to go out on a limb and say 9 out of the 10 people in this pic are perfectly able to stand. Not that it matters to you, Deb, because you don’t even take public transportation. Oh yeah, why are you posting on here, again? If anything, MOC is showing how the general public is just apathetic and ignorant.

  29. AnotherOne says:

    I live in NYC, and coincidentally, I had the same boot and crutches a few months ago (broken ankle). I found people to be very deferential and accommodating, on subways and elsewhere. In fact, they were accommodating well beyond my comfort level (or needs). And what of those people who don’t think more about others? I don’t know. But clearly, you think they should think more about *you*. As for me, I did fine. (And by the way…they continued to watch out for me when I graduated to a cane.)

  30. Yoanimal says:

    Glad I live in a small town, people here wave to each other passing each other on the road. Still can’ get use to poeple opening doors for me though. Yes, Disabled. Paris, Tn.

  31. clare says:

    Bob said this:

    bob says: April 8, 2009 at 2:29 pmshut up crybaby you’re on crutches not missing a leg get over yourself i’m tired of you fucking people thinking that the world owes you something cause you’re crippled maybe those people on the subway actually work for a living and needed to sit while you collect your fucking disability checks faggot get a life

    Take my ‘disability pay checks’ so you do not have to work, but take my disabilities with it!!!!!

  32. ben says:

    People in atlanta are better about this than people in chicago. In atlanta people will routinely give their seat up for woman. I have to say though I agree with most other people that commented, you need to be more assertive and less passive aggressive and ask for a seat. furthermore, there’s people way worse off then having to stand on a train with a bum leg. This issue does not deserve a blog in my opinion.

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